If you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage, you probably dread the thought of a lengthy and possibly bitter divorce in court.
This is exactly why many couples choose divorce mediation. However, besides lessening the emotional impact, there are several other benefits to this option and one in particular.
Reducing time, cost and public scrutiny
The average length of divorce litigation is about 18 months. On the other hand, mediation averages about 90 days. Because this option normally takes far less time than a court proceeding, it is also much less expensive. Divorcing couples also appreciate that mediation is a private, confidential process as opposed to the public scrutiny of a court action.
The success of divorce mediation revolves around open communication between the parties. The mediator, a neutral third party, ensures that the parties can communicate effectively with each other without resorting to angry responses and name-calling. As the parties work toward developing a mutually satisfactory divorce agreement, the mediator provides guidance and helps the couple resolve any conflicts that arise. Teamwork is essential in mediation and the parties learn to communicate to express opinions and avoid misunderstandings.
Building a foundation
Studies show that the children of a marriage can suffer adverse effects from a contentious court battle. They experience less stress and anxiety over a divorce when their parents decide on mediation. It is the number one reason parents choose this option. Communication becomes important in that it helps establish a foundation for post-divorce relationships. The family framework will change in the next stage of life, but mediation creates a calm and respectful model for going forward.